Do you want to be happy?
Do you want to live a fuller life?
Do you want to be at your best every time?
You might be thinking, why am I asking such obvious questions?
Who doesn’t want to be happy, live a fuller life, and be the best?
Yes, I know that the answer to all these questions would be a BIG YES but still, I am asking these questions because of 2 reasons:
1.It’s not often, that we engage in conscious self-talk, where we ask such questions to ourselves. Since we don’t ask, most of us don’t get the answers. Subconsciously we all have these questions running into our mind in a loop, but then these are among the hundreds or maybe thousands of other similar questions running through our mind every single day. Therefore, it’s imperative to ask.
2.The second reason, why I asked these questions is pretty simple. As the title of this post may suggest, since I intend to share my views on the topic, hence I need to seek your permission before starting off. It’s a way to reconfirm that you as a reader are indeed interested in the subject and looking for some solutions, which I may have to offer.
Now that I have a yes from your end, which I consider as implicit permission to go ahead, let’s move on and look at some of the most practical hacks or tips to live a fuller and happier life.
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We are living in the information age, where the entire world is at our fingertips. We consistently seek out what is happening around us and across the globe. How such a plethora of news is actually relevant to us is another matter but the fact remains we want to be aware of anything and everything happening around us. In such a scenario, it’s really ironic that how little we know about our self. Most of the people I see, meet, or know have a lack of self-awareness, which is the root cause of discontent and dissatisfaction. There is no clarity as to,
- What forms our core?
- What drives us?
- What motivates us?
- What gets us going?
- Why do we feel the way we do?
Lack of awareness leads to a situation where we keep blaming others for our failures. We blame people, events, circumstances, for that matter anything and everything under the sun but self.
The external focus doesn’t do any good to us but raises the frustration level. We have limited control over the external environment so why waste our time and energy on something which is not going to give us the desired results. Why not focus on self, be more self-aware and see how can we acquire the missing life skills and enhance our coping abilities.
Cut the distractions, have more of me time and be more aware of your inner self. Once you do that you will get to know your foundation and answers to the questions stated above.
Hack#2 Change your Self-Talk
Self-talk is the conversation we have with our inner-self. This leads to the formation of our thoughts, which convert into beliefs, get embedded in our brain, and guide our actions. On most occasions we engage in negative self-talk, telling ourselves:
- Why we can’t do something
- What is not good about a situation
- We are not good enough
- People can’t be trusted
- What’s not good around us
- Justifying our inaction
- Judging people
- Blaming others
- Spending time in the past
- Worrying about future
- Our Insecurities
- Lack of money
And the list goes on…
Unconsciously and at times unknowingly, we feed our brain with all the negative thoughts. Every time we want to do something, come across a new opportunity or it’s time to make a decision our belief system stops us. A series of thoughts start popping up in our heads, why we should not do something. We get thoughts like-this is not going to work, it’s not for me, this is not the right time to do it, I don’t have enough money, I don’t have the time, I can’t afford it, this is just another scam, people can’t be trusted, I am not good at making decisions, etc.
If you observe, all these thoughts direct as to why we can’t or why we shouldn’t take action.
No action, no change. The status quo persists and we continue to blame destiny, circumstances, people for our failures.
Changing the self-talk leads to the formation of a positive belief system.
- Why I can’t do is replaced by How can I do it?
- This is not gonna work becomes I will make it work
- I can’t afford it becomes how can I afford it?
- Scarcity is replaced by abundance.
Once that happens, you tend to become unstoppable and raring to go.
Next time when you engage in self-dialogue, just be mindful of what you are feeding your brain with. The quality of input will decide the quality of output.
Hack#3 Pursue Goals
I know it’s very cliched but that doesn’t reduce its relevance in the modern world. In the 1950s, Earl nightingale had famously mentioned in his now-legendary audiotape,” The Strangest Secret”, that 95% of people don’t achieve success in their life simply because they don’t have goals. He also said, “You become what you think about. If you think nothing, you become nothing”. This is a very direct and deep statement. It gives you the ultimate clarity that the choices and decisions you make today, decide your future tomorrow.
It’s recommended to have 3 types of goals:
- Short term (Up to 1 year)
- Medium-term (1-3 years)
- Long-term (3-5 years).
Set your ultimate end goals, break them down into sub-goals with clear-cut timelines, and go about them one step at a time. I know it’s not easy but anything worth doing is not easy. It requires considerable effort, but in the end, it’s worth it.
Once you have your goal plan or goal sheet in front of you, following the process becomes simpler. Read or write them daily, so that you get a sense of direction and don’t forget. Remember the old adage, “Out of sight is out of mind”.
So, hack #3 is to set goals and pursue them relentlessly.
Hack#4 Limit exposure to Toxicity
OK, this seems to be a slightly complicated term. Let me break it down for you. Toxicity comprises toxic people, toxic environment, toxic information, toxic events, etc. We are living in a VUCA world (Volatile Uncertain Complex Ambiguous), with too much noise, distraction, and hustle around us. All these distractions are carriers of toxic elements into our lives. Toxic elements at best don’t add any value to our lives but at worst they have a far-reaching adverse impact.
Imagine being surrounded by toxic people, who just keep on talking about what’s not good in the world?
What’s not good at their homes?
What went wrong?
Why you should not do something?
Or, the toxic media consistently bombarding with all that negative news?
Or, the toxic rallies where politicians are talking about their opponents?
How all that negativity is going to impact your brain?
What is going to be the effect on your belief system?
How is it going to define your outlook on the world?
Environment and the company we keep has a profound impact in shaping our lives, so it’s critical that we choose it carefully.
I am aware that complete cut down is not possible and therefore I am recommending limiting the exposure. Cut down all the non-necessary connect and interactions with toxic people who are not contributing to your growth or adding value. Restrict the engagement in toxic events and reduce the intake of toxic information.
These simple steps can be very effective in shaping your personality.
Hack#5 Have Fun
Yes, to have a fulfilled and happy life it’s important to have fun so that life doesn’t become a boring saga. During our growing up years, we all used to have a combination of work and play. We used to look forward to the playtime as a reward for the hard work being put into our studies. These moments helped in rejuvenation and provided the motivation to keep going.
As we grow up, the grind of life begins, focused mostly on work and careers. The fun part is either largely ignored or comprises addictions like consuming alcohol, binge-watch television, social media, etc. While I am not trying to be judgemental but these are not the best of the options one must look forward to. Another issue is that often these moments are ad hoc and not planned so there is no consistency.
A better way would be to identify the activities we really enjoy and then include them in our daily, weekly schedule. Fun elements may include simple activities like listening to favorite music, cooking, going for a drive, having a tea with your spouse, playing with kids, gazing at stars, sitting on the balcony, reading your favorite book, chatting to your friend, or simply doing nothing. it may include anything and everything. Having a schedule helps in keeping the balance and offers an incentive to excel in work.
One of the reasons, why people give up on their pursuit of goals is lack of motivation and monotonous routines. Fun moments provide the welcome relief, recharge, and fuel motivation to keep going on without giving up.
Have Fun for a fulfilled life.
Trust, the hacks shared above make sense to you. If yes, then why not apply and see the results on your own.
It is said, that knowledge without application is wasted, so I would sincerely urge you to apply these tips in your life and test the efficacy on your own.
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